TO ALL EXPECTANT FATHERS
Don`t ever fear that you cannot do anything to give support during the birth of your child!
“What happens if I can’t fix the pain when my wife is in labour?”.
You cannot “fix” it – nothing is broken.
Dads are often amazing just by being there; quiet and strong in the birthing room.
Fathers play a wonderful role during labour and at a birth,
strongly and gently supporting Mum as she rocks back and forth through the contractions.
- Hold your wife or partner as she stands leaning against you
- Gently stroke her hair in the waiting between contractions
- Kiss her- it keeps the oxytocin flowing
- Hold her close
- Reassure her that she can do this, that her body is beautifully designed to give birth
- Encourage her, marvel at her strength
- Hold her hands as her knuckles whiten with the intensity of pushing
- Be her lifeline to hold onto across the bed as she gets to the final pushing stage
- Encourage her some more
- When your little one is born – be there to meet her smile of excitement and fulfilment… “We did it together!”
- Share the awe-inspiring moment as you both look at your new tiny baby together
- Then as she cleans up after the birth – sit quietly with your new baby soft warm against your skin on your chest and allow your tears to fall as time stands still for you to marvel at this wondrous gift of life, this gift to love and nurture and protect.
And in the first days that follow:
- As the breastmilk volume increases day 3 or 4,hold your little one on your chest so he can sleep better as you don`t smell of milk. Your deep voice calms him, your strong hands gently hold him secure.
- Be the strong rock when mum’s hormones make her tearful.
- Hold your baby so that she can sleep, or take him for a walk so that Mum can rest.
- You can change nappies and bath the baby.
- When Mum is breast feeding , remind her that she is BRAIN-WIRING your baby.
- Cook a meal to surprise her
- Give her water or tea when she is feeding your little one
- And encourage her some more!