WHAT THAT I DID OR SAID AS A DOULA /KANGAROULA HELPED YOU THE MOST?
(WHILE IN LABOUR, AT BIRTH OR IN THE FIRST DAYS).
To trust my instincts. (Helen)
Your constant positive support during labour and after birth. Your fantastic tips on breastfeeding. (Jen)
She really helped my husband know what to do and say to support me in labour – he felt so secure knowing that she was there to guide us through the process and that he didn’t have to worry about getting anything “wrong”. Jill was a calm and incredibly encouraging presence throughout the labour and birth which meant so much to both of us and made our birth a wonderfully positive and very special experience. She made sure that I had skin-to-skin contact with my son the moment after he was born and ensured that he remained with one of us at all times. His first breastfeed was within 15 minutes of his birth and she guided us beautifully through that amazing first contact. She also visited us in hospital and at home, always encouraging and affirming us. She was phenomenal! (Claire)
Helped so much in giving my husband a break during the labour, so he could try catch a tiny bit of sleep. Helped so much in dealing with the doctor and nurses and remembering what my birth plan contained when I’d long forgotten. Was nice to not have to be the one to fight my battles. Your presence there was so comforting, especially knowing you’d been through many births and what to expect etc, otherwise I’d have been very worried why the nurses and doctor barely checked up on me. The help during the first few days was also great, from helping with breastfeeding to identifying problems early on so we could get the help we needed.
‘Your body was made to do this – this is the most natural thing. You can do this!’; and post-delivery what you said during a home visit about being okay with being a ‘Good-enough’ mom, and not a perfect mom. (Janine)
Maria writes: Jill being who Jill is as a person is what made the difference. I’d recommend a doula per se but I highly recommend specifically having Jill as a doula. Her care, calm, nurturing and attentiveness were fabulous. God willing if there’s another birth, she’ll be involved!